Wisdom About Friends
The second lesson in selecting friends is that a good friend is loyal. They will not desert you, especially during tough times. They will always stay close to you and care for you. They will find ways to share your burden and lighten it whenever and wherever possible. They will enourage and support you.
“A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” Proverbs 17:17
We’ve addressed this before, but I want to revisit the importance of “friends” in a child’s life. Children are influenced powerfully by other children. The influence becomes stronger as children enter adolescence and the teen years. They begin to question adult standards and the guidance of their parents, teachers and other adult authority in their lives. That questioning leads many children to grow closer to children their own age or a little older. They often do what their friends suggest rather than their parent’s advice or direct orders. It’s called “peer pressure.”
Many teenagers tell counselors they feel closer to their friends than they do to their parents. Arguments between children and their parents often increase during these years and it can be a difficult time for families. God understands the power of human influence and gives Christians clear direction about how to deal with it.
In the last part of our series about prayer and social media we looked at insights from some of the early letters of the Apostle Paul to churches. Would his attitude about prayer change while in prison and at the end of his life?
Here are some of Paul’s comments about prayer from his Prison and Pastoral Epistles. What someone says who has been imprisoned for their beliefs for many years and is in the last days of their life can be extremely revealing about what’s really important in life and faith.
In our previous post about Teaching Wisdom to Our Children, we saw some examples of good teachers in the Bible. They included Bezaleel, Aholiab, Joshua, Samuel, David, Solomon, Ezra and the greatest Teacher of all time, Jesus Christ.
God also points out the dangers to His people of bad teachers. These are people who will try to lead children away from the truth through their bad instruction. Christian parents should be careful of these types of teachers. Here are some examples of those kinds of teachers.
God gives us an interesting example of a teacher and master craftsman in the Book of Exodus. His name was Bezaleel and he was from the Tribe of Judah. We can learn much about choosing the right teachers for our children and being the right teachers for them.
We are learning about what it means to tell people “I’m praying for you.” It’s a social media phrase used often, but how many times do we really mean that we’re going to pray for someone? How do we know that someone who “likes,” “shares” or “retweets” our online prayer request will actually pray for us? Are we taking prayer too lightly in this fast-paced social climate? Are we saying we’ll pray for someone as just a social gesture or do we really believe in the power and necessity of prayer?
So far, we’ve seen examples of Jesus’ prayers and Apostles’ prayers. Let’s continue with examples from the Apostles and think about how we can pray more effectively for people who are part of our social community. We begin with the Apostle Paul.
We have many teachers in life. We have teachers at school, in church, in music, in sports, at work, in martial arts. We are constantly learning. Teachers have a tremendous influence in the lives of children. Most teachers teach because they love and care about children, but parents should be involved in knowing their children’s teachers and what drives them to teach. Unfortunately, some teachers are involved in the lives of children for the wrong reasons. We should be aware and careful for our children’s sake.
Parents choose most of a young child’s teachers, but children will eventually make some of their own choices. Plus, they need to know the difference between good and poor teachers in order to help their parents know what’s happening in the classroom. We look to God’s Word for guidance on how to choose the best teachers for our children and how to guide them to make those choices as they grow up.
We touched on this briefly in our last post, but let’s take a longer look at what is probably the most important and vital relationship a child will ever have.
The parent-child relationship should be protected and nurtured by everyone in a community. The success or failure of that bond affects us all. God loves children and gave them as a special gift to parents.
We shared in the previous post about the importance of teaching and modeling healthy relationships with children. What they learn about relationships as a child will affect the way they build relationships as adults.
Here’s some of what God has to say about building healthy relationships with others. You can use this as a guide when working with the children He brings into your life.
The purpose of this study is to help parents, Christian martial arts teachers and other adults guide children through the mine fields of life and find God’s purpose and blessing for their lives.
The fourth step to Teaching Wisdom To Our Children is to lead them to make wise choices when it comes to relationships in life.
Babies are born into the world with almost no ability to care for themselves. Doctors and nurses and other types of caregivers help in the first days of a child’s life, but the primary responsibility for a baby’s health and wellbeing falls to the parents. In a child’s early years parents will look to family members, friends, neighbors, teachers and others for assistance in giving their children direction and protection. Parents soon learn about the many “mine fields” facing them as they attempt to raise healthy, well-adjusted children.